Mother’s Day Wish

What would I like for Mother’s Day?  Well, for starters, I would like a whole day without someone questioning the choices I make for my son.

If I want to send him junk food in his lunch, I will.

If I think it is OK that he touched some other 4-year-old girl’s hair at school, I am not going to punish him because he got YELLOW at school for doing that.  I guess I can’t argue with their ‘rules’, but PUH-LEASE…  I remember being knocked down, jumped on and wrestled.  He touched a girl’s hair and patted it (like he does mine.)

If I throw away one of his toys because he threw it down the stairs, I will.  (obviously this is after telling him that is what would happen if he did it again)

If I want to make him eat at the table and sit up straight. I will.

If I don’t feel that a 4-year-old who has great teeth needs to go to the dentist RIGHT NOW. I won’t take him.

If I feel it is OK for him to watch a movie.  He will.

If I decide to let him play the DS.  He will.

Get the point?  🙂

Sheesh…  bad week for me I guess…  but come on.

Anyway, on to some lighter stuff and less BS…

Well some time during the last month, my son has come up with new sayings… I should really write them down when I laugh at them… but, I really haven’t.  I think I will remember them, but obviously I don’t… 😦

His absolutely favorite one right now is :  “Mommy, I need to tell you something”

If I have heard that once, I’ve heard it 1,000 times lately… Though we have finally learned the difference between telling and asking…

So actually about half of them are “I need to ask you something.”

His questions and things he has to tell you are interesting…  He gets so excited about things!

He has also been setting rules for things… and everything is a competition… luckily, he always picks me for his team.. 🙂

He has such an awesome imagination..  sometimes I just get enthralled in the stuff he comes up with.

So ultimately I have what I want for mother’s day.. I have an awesome kid…  seriously.  I know I am biased, but he is a smart, caring, empathetic, curious child. 🙂  He has his moments… what kid doesn’t… but mostly, they only last for a VERY short time and he moves on…

A great example was in the pool the other day, He asked me…

“Do you hate me because I got in trouble at school?”

“I will never hate you sweetie…”

“You will always love me?”

“Yes, of course I will always, always love you.”

“Even when I’m bad?”

“Yes, even when you are bad, I will love you.”

“Will you always like me?”

“Hmm…  yes, I will always like you.  I may be mad at something you did, but I will always like YOU”

“So you love me forever and ever and always?”

“Yes, forever and ever and always.”

“I love you mommy”

“I love you too sweetie”

So my mother’s day is already special because not only do I ignore most of the people telling me how to raise my child (99.9% of the time) – my child loves me…

He tells me that every day at least 10 times.  I tell him that just as many times too.  I cherish those times, those words, the love I see in his eyes, the hugs I get and the cuddles.  I know there will come a day when I won’t get that as much, but my goal is to never let that light of love in his eyes diminish! 🙂

So Happy Mother’s Day to every mother out there…  whether you are aware of it or not, if you love your children, they know it.  We all have moments, we all make iffy decisions and we all do the best that we can…  I question myself all the time… but I learn from my mistakes, I make sure he knows he is loved and I listen to what he has to say.  It’s the best that I can do.

6 Responses to “Mother’s Day Wish”

  1. Megan Matthieson Says:

    I wish that I had been as kick ass as you when my kids were little. Rock on. That is awesome.

    • randomshelly Says:

      HA!! Thanks! Some days I feel kick ass, others I feel like WTF am I doing!! Such is life 🙂

  2. Maggie Says:

    I know exactly what you mean. And I hate to say it, but my mother is the worst offender. I appreciate all her help, being a single mother isn’t easy, but I’m not an idiot. My son has made it to the ripe old age of 8 under my care, and he’s a perfectly normal little boy.

    And the hugs and cuddles and that unconditional love that shines in their eyes? The BEST Mother’s Day gift EVER!

    • randomshelly Says:

      Yes! and I do realize they are just trying to help – but seriously, if you have told me something more than once, and I haven’t followed your advice… get the hint! 🙂

      No – it isn’t easy! 🙂

      It is the best gift ever right?? Guess I need to make sure to express that to my mom tomorrow! 😉

  3. Pat Robeck Says:

    Great blog, if more Moms would just do what they know is right and not listen to all the TV “experts” and what other peoples opinions are of mothering, more kids would grow up to be well adjusted and productive adults. Thanks for loving your child enough to throw away the toy!

    • randomshelly Says:

      It also throws you into about 100 different directions if you try to listen to everyone! I may question myself all the time… but I do what I feel is right… all I can do! 🙂 And man, throwing away the toy (well putting it in the charity bag) was hard… the sobbing and the “you hurt my heart” gets me every time – I just have to walk away, steel myself and then come back and hug and move on 🙂

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