It’s my birthday

Today is my birthday…

I started off the day with a wonderful “HAPPY BIRTHDAY” from my husband and then my son…

My son then informed me that he needed to stay home from school with me for my birthday… and that since I watched him get his new belt in testing last night.. that he needed to sit and watch me get my belt this morning… (I did get my new belt, btw – it was fun! :))

As cute as that was… and it was…  he went to school…

My mom picked him up at 11:30 (actual let out time for VPK) and took him to get my present…  I told her he could get me a travel coffee mug – I use those a LOT…

So they come home.. and he hands me a dozen roses…  AWWWWW…

Mom said she tried to get him to buy the pretty sunflowers, but he said ‘NO, he wanted me to have those’ – how freaking awesome is that?

So he picked out a pink travel mug… it HAD to be pink he said – and he also bought me some Junior Mints – my favorite… (at my mom’s bidding I’m sure) – so when I opened them, he tried one and said, “mmm… minty” (Have I mentioned lately how awesome he is?)

Hubby’s gift to me, by the way, was a request from me (don’t ask)… and that he has to take me to see Sex and the City 2 this weekend (can’t wait).

I have had an awesome birthday so far…  I know tonight will be just as good!  I am truly blessed I tell ya!

Mother’s Day Wish

What would I like for Mother’s Day?  Well, for starters, I would like a whole day without someone questioning the choices I make for my son.

If I want to send him junk food in his lunch, I will.

If I think it is OK that he touched some other 4-year-old girl’s hair at school, I am not going to punish him because he got YELLOW at school for doing that.  I guess I can’t argue with their ‘rules’, but PUH-LEASE…  I remember being knocked down, jumped on and wrestled.  He touched a girl’s hair and patted it (like he does mine.)

If I throw away one of his toys because he threw it down the stairs, I will.  (obviously this is after telling him that is what would happen if he did it again)

If I want to make him eat at the table and sit up straight. I will.

If I don’t feel that a 4-year-old who has great teeth needs to go to the dentist RIGHT NOW. I won’t take him.

If I feel it is OK for him to watch a movie.  He will.

If I decide to let him play the DS.  He will.

Get the point?  🙂

Sheesh…  bad week for me I guess…  but come on.

Anyway, on to some lighter stuff and less BS…

Well some time during the last month, my son has come up with new sayings… I should really write them down when I laugh at them… but, I really haven’t.  I think I will remember them, but obviously I don’t… 😦

His absolutely favorite one right now is :  “Mommy, I need to tell you something”

If I have heard that once, I’ve heard it 1,000 times lately… Though we have finally learned the difference between telling and asking…

So actually about half of them are “I need to ask you something.”

His questions and things he has to tell you are interesting…  He gets so excited about things!

He has also been setting rules for things… and everything is a competition… luckily, he always picks me for his team.. 🙂

He has such an awesome imagination..  sometimes I just get enthralled in the stuff he comes up with.

So ultimately I have what I want for mother’s day.. I have an awesome kid…  seriously.  I know I am biased, but he is a smart, caring, empathetic, curious child. 🙂  He has his moments… what kid doesn’t… but mostly, they only last for a VERY short time and he moves on…

A great example was in the pool the other day, He asked me…

“Do you hate me because I got in trouble at school?”

“I will never hate you sweetie…”

“You will always love me?”

“Yes, of course I will always, always love you.”

“Even when I’m bad?”

“Yes, even when you are bad, I will love you.”

“Will you always like me?”

“Hmm…  yes, I will always like you.  I may be mad at something you did, but I will always like YOU”

“So you love me forever and ever and always?”

“Yes, forever and ever and always.”

“I love you mommy”

“I love you too sweetie”

So my mother’s day is already special because not only do I ignore most of the people telling me how to raise my child (99.9% of the time) – my child loves me…

He tells me that every day at least 10 times.  I tell him that just as many times too.  I cherish those times, those words, the love I see in his eyes, the hugs I get and the cuddles.  I know there will come a day when I won’t get that as much, but my goal is to never let that light of love in his eyes diminish! 🙂

So Happy Mother’s Day to every mother out there…  whether you are aware of it or not, if you love your children, they know it.  We all have moments, we all make iffy decisions and we all do the best that we can…  I question myself all the time… but I learn from my mistakes, I make sure he knows he is loved and I listen to what he has to say.  It’s the best that I can do.


First of all, I want to apologize to anyone who had their Google Reader inundated with posts from me!  I just went through all of my posts and added tags – and I didn’t realize that updates got sent to the reader! Sorry.

Now I know.

However, in reading the posts, I laughed.  I went back to the beginning and read my posts…  funny (to me).  However, reading “Forever Humbled” and “Memorial Day” made me tear up because I remember the emotions I had writing them (even though the emotion doesn’t come straight through in the posts…)

I almost deleted a bunch of them, but then decided, NO!  I won’t do that.

I also saw a theme and am literally kicking myself in the ass for it…


Getting it and doing something with it.

Seems I have all the ‘best intentions’ when I write these posts… (I even named a post that) – but as I read post after post of me saying I was going to do this or start that, I had to slam my head down on the desk and then say UH OH.

I haven’t done them…

I haven’t exercised every day (I have even recently let my exercise blog go as cold as my muscles have been)

I haven’t eaten 5 times a day.

I haven’t stopped snacking at night.

I haven’t written much on any of my stories.

I haven’t been the positive public person I strive to be.

So what have I done?

A lot…  Thanks for asking 😉

I have been told by the therapist that I took my son to, that he does not need to see her (its been quite a few months… just giving updates here)

I have been told by my son’s teachers that his behavior has markedly improved to the point of “did he have a problem?”.  (I LOVED HEARING THAT… just saying)

I have been taking my vitamins.

I have been sleeping better.

I have been more patient with my son.

I have been spending more quality time with my husband.

I have been interacting socially (IRL, not just online!)

May not be all that I have planned to do, but I am happy about having done all of those things… and even though I have a lot more to do, and the things on my list are important…  I’m finally doing and getting to the place that I needed to be…

I am happy.

…. update complete 🙂

Lesson 1-Potty Training

Here are some helpful tips for anyone out there raising a son…  I have learned them the hard way.  Now remember as I write this he is only 4 and a half…  so over time I may come back and update this! 🙂  Now – on to what prompted this post tonight…

Potty training… Now, I was lucky enough when he wore diapers to never get that little shower that so many people have gotten!  But I haven’t gotten off scott-free…  so here are my three potty training tips for boys…

  1. Teach them EARLY… Seat up to go, Seat down when done, flush, wash your hands… it’s a good mantra  (has worked for us! Flushing is still an issue, but getting better!)
  2. Try to get them to aim in the middle.  We are still working on this one.. He seems to still think if he doesn’t hold it and doesn’t flush, he doesn’t have to spend time washing his hands! :))
  3. Never talk to them while they are going… they WILL turn to talk to you!!  Just hope you aren’t wearing really expensive shoes that would be ruined!

Now those are the tips… Here is the latest I have been dealing with though… Not sure what the tip will be… but figure it will be something like the mantra in Number 1…  So the issue seems to be that I need to RE-clarify what seat up means…  it means BOTH seats…  Unfortunately, I have gone into the bathroom a few times recently, sat down, and jumped right back up because the seat was wet…  Seems he lifted the lid, but not the other seat and since we are still working on Number 2 and 3…  well you get the picture!

Can’t wait to see what is next! 🙂

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Best Intentions

I always have the best intentions… I really, really do.

I am still so excited about changing my game – though I am starting to realize that I need to decide what exactly I am going to change.

It is 1 am now, and I am about to go to bed – still earlier than normal, but later than I need it to be.

I need to get up and get going in the morning – something I have not been able to master in all of my ‘grown-up’ years!  Ever since my hubby took this new job – he has to leave the house between 5:45 and 6:00 am… which means that the days of me being able to sleep in while he handled getting our son to daycare (now school) is OVER.  It is up to me.  5 days a week. so my new ‘resolution’ about going to bed early isn’t for me – it is for him…  I need to be awake and functioning in an efficient manner in the mornings – and that has not been the case since this new schedule has taken effect.  I will make this work… but whew is it hard!  I do my best thinking and working at night when everything is quiet, no interruptions and I can focus.  It is going to take a big shift change in my way of thinking and doing…

Back to the best intentions… besides going to bed early, I planned to start writing, working out again and removing the BS that is in my way. Oh yeah – and eating 5 times a day…

So far, the only one of those I have done is start to remove the BS in my way…  Which is a good start, don’t get me wrong…  but the morning after I wrote my last post, I woke up (so did the whole household) coughing up my lungs…  It has been a bad couple of days let me tell you..  I don’t even want to take a deep breath because it hurts so bad… so you can imagine how much I will NOT be working out until this stops!

However, I did organize some charts for me to keep up with my daily eating, exercise and activities!  and starting tomorrow, I plan to at least start stretching out – that shouldn’t make me breathe hard right?  As for eating 5 times a day – I have lost 7 pounds because I haven’t wanted to eat at all and have forced down protein shakes!  (yeah, I know – the violins are playing… LOL – and I know I will survive on the fat reserves I have!) 🙂

Now writing…  now that the headache (from the broken nose) has leveled off back down to a functioning level – I will be organizing which story I want to write and start kicking it out.

So here is to the morning!  May it be a good one – giving me a happy son, a lesser headache and coughing, and the energy to JUST WRITE!

Until next time… 🙂

Holy Cow

Tomorrow is Thanksgiving!  I do believe this is the first time I have had Thanksgiving at my house!  Lots of family will be here tomorrow (well this afternoon actually for the ones staying with me!)  I can’t wait! 🙂

Good news on the kid front…  He is doing exceptionally well.  The school has moved to its new location and they are splitting his class in half – so he will not be in a huge class anymore!  I think that will really help!

With that many kids in one class, I think it is very hard to allow any child to whine or act up for more than a second! The Doctor says she doesn’t really need to see him.  The hitting has almost stopped.  Bedtime is just awesome.  The name calling is still being worked on, but overall – the prodigy child is acting like the boy I knew was there! LOL

On the workout front, well, losing my workout partner just took all of my motivation and threw it out the door…  Need to figure out how to make working out a part of my every day routine!  I keep trying to tell myself a quote I heard from my friend Andy Core, “When is the best time to workout? – Whenever you will do it” – Good quote!

It’s a new day

Wow – it is amazing to me how long it has been since I have posted anything on this blog…  I thought I was doing so well too… LOL


What do I mean by its a new day?  It is time for me to finally start doing what I need to do.  To live each day to the fullest, to do all of the things I want to do.  Seems like all the time, I have all of these great ideas, plans, thoughts.  I have every intention of following up on them, doing something about them, implementing them, etc. – but then another day is over and I haven’t done most of them.  SO here is my current bucket list:

  1. Start working out AGAIN
  2. Moderate my time better (doing this one helps all the others)
  3. Start writing again
  4. Eat Better
  5. Don’t let the ‘little’ things in life bog me down
  6. Clean the house (perpetual!!!!)

Even though I still need to work on the list above, I have implemented one very important thing… Play with my son more.

I have let go of all the anxiety I have had on getting stuff done or working or whatever during the time that my son is awake and here and willing to play!  We have been having a lot of fun and as I am sure you can imagine – it has also helped out his behavior!  He is not striving for attention anymore!  He really is fun to play with and watch – He amazes me every day…. just saying 🙂

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So, for three weeks now, we have been implementing this new bedtime routine for our son.  I actually cannot describe how well it has been working!

We have been turning off all stimulation at 7:00 (TV, computer, DS System, Wii, etc…)  – bath time and into pajamas.  Reading time comes next.  I cannot tell you how fun reading time has been.  He is SO inquisitive…  Asks what everything is on the page… soo cute.

At 8:00, lights go out and usually by 8:30 he is asleep – most of the time he has fallen asleep by 8:10 or 8:15. My husband and I have been taking turns on who will stay upstairs with him until he falls asleep…

This is an amazing accomplishment.  Only a month ago, we were struggling with bedtime.  sometimes until 11 pm! So there really are not words to describe how great this is!

So as an example of how my son makes me laugh – here is what happened tonight.  He decided he wanted to sleep on the top bunk again, so I just stood down by the bed.  He drifts off to sleep and then jerked awake again.  so I walked over to him where he said to me “Momma, I am very tired.  Can you please go downstairs now so I can go to sleep.”  I just said, “Of course I can.  Good night.”  Then he said “Good night Momma”

How cute is he…. really!?! 🙂

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Ok – I now have a new wrinkle in the drama called VPK – my 4 year old’s ‘school’.  Seems as of yesterday morning, he has 2 new teachers…  One moved up to the ‘too full’ kindergarten class to help out, and the other one (the one that said he was the worst student in her class) – ‘Unfortunately has had to resign’ – I have to say that I am not sorry to see her go!  I asked him yesterday how he liked the new teacher and he said she was nice and she didn’t yell and she was not grumpy – PROGRESS!! 🙂

For the last week, his new sleep routine has been perfect.  He has adjusted well to the schedule, and now gets up in the morning by himself, on time and gets ready – things are going so well!

Just in case you haven’t read this in any of my other posts, I have an awesome kid.  I just also happened to have a kid that doesn’t like to go to sleep – not sure why yet, but I think with all of us working towards making bedtime fun, relaxing and peaceful – his rebelling against going to sleep should fall away….  so far so good – here’s hoping that continues!  Continuity is the key! 🙂

Feeling better

OK – so all of my anxiety, worry and devastation may have been unnecessary.  We took him to the Psychologist today.  Now I do realize it was the first visit, but I am very relieved and hopeful from the things she said.  These are the main points she made:

  1. We need to work on his sleep. ( going to sleep without a fight, calming him down an hour before bed – this may help with the night terrors too)
  2. He is a few levels ahead in intelligence – she thinks – obviously tests would need to be run to be sure, but from her observations…
  3. He has high energy (OH YEAH!!)
  4. He is very inquisitive.
  5. The ‘stress’ of changing teachers 3 times in last months at daycare along with new school last week is a definite cause of behavior issues.
  6. The fact that he is generally younger than his classmates makes a big difference in development, and in following the ‘rules’…
  7. He is a very happy child.
  8. She does not think he will need to come in very many times.

So I cannot tell you how relieved I am to know that I didn’t break him!  We just need to put in the effort, get him some consistency and let him be who he is!  YEAH!! 🙂

Forgot to add that she said the teacher’s negativity (saying my son was the worst in the class) needs to be worked on, and when the Dr. talked to my son, he told her that the teacher was grumpy and yelled all the time.  hmmmmm…